9 Lessons in 2009

Every year is just a mere page of a book waiting to unfold. This year, I reached a plateau where everything seems the same but when you look back, it was different. I feel like I've changed without instantly knowing it; like I am a different person now. One day, I just felt that snap like I've changed. I felt like I was lazier, crankier, an emotional roller coaster, there are also times that I am better and times that I am worse, but more that that I feel more alone. This is the first of the many years to come that friendships are apart and separate lives are born.

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At first, I attributed this change in me from too much internet usage. I spend a bulk of my day in front of a laptop and my interactions are now in pixels rather than in voices and expressions. Now I know how the computer age can change you without even knowing it. But then again, a lot has happened that made its effect on me. This has brought about highs and lows over the past months. Human as I am, I falter but in time, I got my groove back.

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I want to share my life's lessons in 2009. Extracted from the shambles of the year, I learned, and I learned well. Here they are:

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1. Some things are not worth the rush. We often want things to be done but we lose sight of time. Things do not simply fall in time, they fall in God's time. Great things and plans await us. Just wait.
2. Do what you deem is right for the present moment that will lead you to the future. We don't have to follow the flow of the happy river. Just move even if it's rocky. You'll be surprised of how many fishes will follow your route.
3. Some people are just there to disappoint. You'll have to endure those moments because one moment will not numb you for the next one. Choose your battles. Do not waste your time on petty things but do not allow yourself to be indifferent. Help, as long as you can.
4. The internet is sheepishly evil but satisfyingly good. 'Nuff said.
5. You cannot push something as an immediate concern to people who do not regard that thing as a priority. You will just frustrate yourself of understanding. It also goes out to communication as well. You cannot make them talk to you or hang out if you are not a priority of the moment.
6. "People always leave. But sometimes, they come back." - That's why it's called 'sometimes' because more often than not, they don't. It's only in the sacred space in our hearts that there is an "always and forever". Missing them only means the coming back is worthwhile because when the time is right, goodbyes doesn't mean forever.
7. Never ever give up on friendship. They may wreck your limbic system out of emotions unknown to man, but they are still treasures. Distance, whether space, place or time, is a piece of sh*t, for lack of a better term. Constant communication may be the key but it is definitely not enough. Make time for a physical bond to strengthen the heart bond. Make time!
8. A genuine smile is more often harder to elicit than a mere laugh. People can make you laugh but only a few can make you smile.
9. No one can define the entirety of life and love. What only matters is we live it in its meat and core. Sometimes we tend to focus on the icing that we forget about the cake.

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Live life! Love life! (I meant the latter as a cheer for an upcoming love life not a cheer for loving life! Hahaha! Kidding! =D )

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Happy Holidays!! May you have a fruitful year ahead of you! Thank you for being a part of my 2009 for merely reading my entries and sharing your insights on a couple of my raves and rants.. Hugs and mwah! Have a merry 2009 and a greater 2010!

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Love and Bliss!